Women Over 60 Shouldn’t

Women Over 60 Shouldn’t

…or, Five Things Women Over 60 Shouldn’t Do 

For the most part, we don’t like “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” – but there comes a time when we must put our respective feet down. Just like you shouldn’t tug on superman’s coat — here are a few more things we women over 60 shouldn’t do (or shouldn’t forget to do)…

Barb here:

1.   Wear high heels to look sexy and then shuffle along like a person of advanced years. Those hot shoes may look great when you’re standing still in “The Pose” but if you can’t walk down a city side walk at a close to normal pace and without your head down, watching every step, then leave them in the closet (or store). If you love high heels and can stride along confidently, then enjoy them to your heart’s content. The operative phrase here is “Stride along confidently”. You are strong, you are seasoned, you rock. Walk like it.

2.  Wear turtlenecks, scarves, and six strands of pearls to hide your neck. First of all, they don’t fool anyone. Secondly, if someone is going to judge you for your glorious, somewhat worn, well-live-life skin, then to heck with them. Show your neck, show your cleavage. Show your damn arm wattles. This is life. You earned every wrinkle, sun spot, and wiggle. Now, if you live up north in the winter – stick with those scarves and turtlenecks. If you have your Grandmother’s pearls or a fake set that makes you feel fabulous—why, by all means feel fabulous. If you are one of those people who can toss on a scarf of any weight and size and have it turn your separates into an outfit, we secretly hate you, but go for it.

3.  Edit your wardrobe or hairstyle to meet someone’s expectations of what Women Over 60 shouldn’t do (including us).  As long as you aren’t breaking any laws, wear what you damn well please, what’s comfortable, and what makes you feel like your best you.  Tell the 30-something fashion police to go play in the sandbox.

3.  Get caught up in “The Dreaded Shoulds” instead of following your gut. You worked hard to get here and you made a whole lot of mistakes along the way. (We sure did.) You may have made some of them over and over. (We did.) Stop that and find friends who will support you and whom you can support (that’s huge—it’s a two-way street), accept that some of your family may not be supportive, but embrace those who do. Follow your gut—after all, she’s known you all your life.

5.  Forget to take time to play. Remember running around in the back yard/streets/back forty when you were a kid? What makes you smile now? We walk for exercise, going for an aerobic >15 minute mile. The Teva Diva has discovered biking, first for transportation and now for fun. Whenever she’s on her bike she smiles. Spontaneously. She smiles so much on the bike she probably scares the any 30-somethings she meets. That’s good, because she’s usually wearing a skort and Tevas and evidently they consider that one of the things Women Over 60 Shouldn’t Do  like that. Play cards, take up an outdoor game (tennis, bocce, petanque or, anyone?) Build a snowman or sand castle. Travel. Hike. Swim. Learn to surf. Play.

Lynnelle here:

Yes, I have my own comments on each of the “don’ts” above, but you probably knew that I would…

1.  Being the Heels Diva, it’s important to note there are high heels and then there are HIGH HEELS. It’s important to stride confidently regardless of the shoe. However, to think any woman, of any age can consistently stride confidently down a city sidewalk in a pair of Louboutin’s Pigalle 120mms…. Well, if you find her, and her ankles are still intact and she hasn’t done at least one face-plant – she’s my new hero. This is a picture of the one and only Gwyneth Paltrow from the Louboutin 120mm blog and the photo’s caption: “Gwyneth Paltrow in black Pigalle 120 Louboutins. Don’t her feet look cute in these 120’s?…” Noooooo. They do not. Gaping arch, pinched toes… what’s cute about that??  Wear whatever heels you want, hold your head up and walk on, sister.

2.  I LOVE wearing scarves. Now that I don’t have to dress for success and I’m living further south in the Austin area, I don’t have the occasion or the weather to wear them often. But I still love them. Tres French. I love scarves NOT to hide anything, per se. But, if you can accessorize AND camouflage at the same time – that’s a win-win. Pearls? I am not sure I could put on enough pearls to hide, or even camouflage anything. Mrs. Bush combines the pearl/scarf accessories and it looks fine. Sort of.

3.  Anyone who thinks they can give me a list of what I shouldn’t do and think I’m NOT going to go out and do it is unenlightened. Because I don’t have many “can’t”s, only a few “won’t”s (i.e. wear a bikini or eat candied crickets).

4.  Anyone who tells me I should or should not do, have, be, go, feel, eat, wear, please #3 above. Then they “should” clean up their own life.

5. Giving yourself permission to play is probably the most difficult of the 5, at least for me. There’s always something or someone that needs to be called, cleaned, put up or away, etc., etc. Prioritizing your own joy typically takes a back seat to everything else. Like the oxygen masks on an airplane, Love yourself first so you’ll have the capacity to fully love others. Have fun. We said so

An Object Lesson from a Woman Over 60

(aka: Barb, The Teva Diva)

Ten years ago EW and I went to California to visit our son and to celebrate our 50th and 60th birthdays.  Favorite and a friend of his took us surfing. EW, having surfed long before Favorite was born (but not at all for over 20 years), eagerly followed Favorite out to deeper water. The young woman gracefully stayed with me and taught me (a total novice) to use a belly board. I LOVED it.  As I was resting and basking in my new found talent a woman over 60 stopped by and chatted. She had her husband had belly boarded weekly until he passed away. She hadn’t done it for a year or two, but watching me brought it all back. I told her that on our walks I had seen groups of seniors belly boarding and suggested she check with local organizations to find one. I hope she did. I have chosen to believe she did.

belly boarding seniors IMAGES FREE & UNRESTRICTED – NATIONAL TRUST WORLD BELLY BOARDING CHAMPS 2013 -Porth Chapel Beach, Cornwall – The very glamourous Mary Jane Sherrett & Sarah Disley

1 thought on “Women Over 60 Shouldn’t”

  • OMG how did I miss this post??? Love it!

    Things I won’t do now that I’m over sixty —
    * Try to draw to an inside straight
    * Worry about “What Others Will Think”
    * Save my favourite things for special occasions; use them every day instead
    * Turn down opportunities for adventures
    * Let striving for “perfect” get in the way of enjoying “good enough”
    * Subject myself to uncomfortable heat or cold, or sleeping on the ground or eating crappy food — unless its in service to having amazing new experiences. Then, bring it!
    * Settle for cheap skin lotion

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